WHAT ARE ADDICTIONS?
As regards addictions, it is a chronic brain condition
influenced by genes and the environment that is characterized by substance use
or compulsive actions that continue despite harmful consequences
1) Transforming your life by fighting poor habits / terrible
addictions is not about willpower. Will power is fleeting and short-lived. Not
sustainable. To truly quit any and all addictions - you need to understand the
mechanism of addiction and have systems to fight it.
2) All addictions are a game of pleasure and pain in the
brain. You are an addict because your dopamine levels are above or below the
baseline (normal levels). When above, brain tries to reduce it. Leads to
depression. When below you feel craving and want more of the pleasure.
3) You get into addictions from a desire to escape pain, not
from a desire to seek pleasure. Once you find out a substance can reduce pain,
you often return for more. Don't fall for this illusion. It does not relieve
pain, it numbs you to it. Replaces it with craving.
4) You have baseline dopamine levels. It is necessary for
reward and pleasure mechanisms. When you indulge in alcohol, porn, nicotine
etc, it gives out lot of dopamine. the
brain tries to correct it by reducing natural dopamine level thereby bringing
you to a state of pain ( cravings ).
5) Modern society is dull beyond belief. All of our needs
are met within the confines of our homes. Comfort is everywhere. This makes us
weak, susceptible to fall into temptation. You will pursue anything that makes
you feel some excitement, some pleasure or arousal. Resist this
6) Addiction can happen to any of us. You can be addicted to
anything. Substances, behaviour and even people. Anything that keeps you in a
heightened state of pleasure by bathing your brain with dopamine will lead you
into the pleasure-pain loop and cause addiction
7) To quit any addiction, you need 3 things - a) Get your
dopamine levels to baseline b) Replace your sources of dopamine to stable
healthy natural sources that can be controlled c) Hypervigilance, constantly
being aware of your behavior at all times. This is 90% of the battle
8) You need 30 days to get your dopamine levels to baseline.
60 days if you are an extreme case. This is how long you need to stay away from
the substance or habit. Also avoid other big hits from other activities to
avoid relapse. (Happens due to neural pathway activation)
09) If it is a drug, when you stop using your drug for the
first 2 weeks, you will feel like shit. This is because the brain is now in a
deficit of dopamine and is in a pain state of low baseline dopamine. You will
feel depressed, irritable and anxious. You have to ride it out. It only gets
better
10) Focus on doing today right, then focus on doing it
again. Over and over. Don't plan out 30,90 days it doesn't work like that. Do
one day right. Then use the momentum to move forward every day. This will keep
you consistent and positive. This is your road to recovery
WHAT IS DOPAMINE?
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter made in the brain. Basically,
it acts as a chemical messenger between neurons.
Dopamine is released when your brain is expecting a reward.
When you come to associate a certain activity with pleasure,
mere anticipation may be enough to raise dopamine levels. It could be a certain
food, sex, shopping, or just about anything else that you enjoy.
For example, suppose your “go-to” comfort food is homemade
double chocolate chip cookies. Your brain may increase dopamine when you smell
them baking or see them come out of the oven. When you eat them, the flood of
dopamine acts to reinforce this craving and focus on satisfying it in the
future.
https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-effect
Learn to be with nature, reflect, enjoy BEING than BECOMING
Take a few minutes to discuss what is the difference between us and flowers..........what competition has done to humans.......why were we so stressed and tensed........flowers bloom and many humans doom...why?............can we be like flowers? How should we be mindful, relaxed and bloom in the coming days.
Learn from the Daffodils
I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.
For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.
Some reflections by Manisha
Blooming is not a choice for flowers but for humans it's a
choice to bloom or doom,
For flowers there is no second-guessing… only the relentless
twisting, doubling, splitting, growth towards its destiny.
A flower doesn’t worry about the dark possibilities, the
what if’s, such as…
being planted in the wrong place…
Am I going to block someone’s view?
attracting insects that may not be a perfect match for that
spot?
Am I going to annoy someone?
not being the right color, shape or size…
What if no one notices me? What if no one wants me?
As humans we can take the following into account from
flowers.
Resiliency is blooming wherever you are planted.
Courage is reaching for the warmth and nourishment of the
sun and growing into the unknown.
Faith is dropping seeds, wherever, for the next season’s
crop.
Curiosity is the small tendril that reaches out to connect
in the most delightful, unexpected ways to build roots and vines on an
adventure towards the sun.
Hope is the smile on the face of a pansy or the 5-foot tall
stalk waving at you from beneath a magnificent sunflower
Like flowers, we should learn to bloom and not to doom. If it
is a choice we should make our choice wisely to bloom and not to doom